Lifestylist

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As a girl, if you ever want to see the phases you were going through there are a few place you can look. 1. your clothes 2. your google searches and 3. your Pinterest page. Recently I’ve been a little wedding crazy, I use the excuse that I’m doing research for brides and staying on top of trends for future clients. Recently though, I have been planning my own wedding based off of a nonexistent proposal. Literally planning everything; the places, the dress, the rings, the food, the people, I almost wrote down a guest list…it wasn’t long before my entire Pinterest was only wedding things. I was a little embraced, I had let something that isn’t even happening yet take over my running thoughts. It didn’t take long to notice that the things that kept me balanced where no longer there, recipes, workouts, street style, home decor. Things that to me, make up a balanced life. Looking at my Pinterest as a balance board for life may not be accurate but it may help me describe what a life stylist is. IMG_2914

When I had my business cards made and took that leap of faith in myself as an entrepreneur, I wasn’t sure what I was, fashion or events? I didn’t want to make two separate cards, so I landed on “Lifestylist” all aspects of life deserve to be pretty, styled and tailored to you, as well as in balance with everything else. Just like a good outfit. A balanced life is a happy life, just like a good Pinterest feed. Having all the focus on one area is not healthy. Keeping each area pretty, maintained and interesting is what a lifestyles does. Anything can be pretty, anyone can be fabulous, any day can change your life. IMG_3189

Style is who you are without having to speak. This statements holds true to your home, your clothes, your way of living. Giving those few extra moments can make the world of difference, but if you ever need a little help. I’m right there for you. Keeping life pretty is like keeping a balanced Pinterest feed, never letting things get unbalanced and out of hand

-ML

 

Summer Sunnies

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As we get older, I don’t know if it just me, but do you feel like Summer just doesn’t quiet feel like summer anymore? I was born a summer baby, July 30th. I have always been one for tan skin, wavy beach hair and being poolside for hours on end. As we grow up, no one reminds us that the days you used to spend making sand castles on the beach are traded for days in a stuffy office behind a computer screen. While we may have kissed good bye to summer break, we shouldn’t kiss away that little extra summer style.

Summer is all about the Sunnies, that perfect pair to give you that extra kick of on trend. There are three Sunglasses trends I wanted to bring to your attention. The Dramatic pair that faux cat eye and edgy cut, is everything and more for that bold HBIC on the beach. Not to mention the mirrored front lenses to cover any shade you may be throwing. If you know me at all you know I love a good bargain, these bad boys are only $11.99 on Amazon… I mean. Image result for pastel pink sunnies

If the Edgy girl look isn’t your thing, try a softer rounded look with these great aviator like sunnies from Ashby in the RVA for you local girls. I have been obsessed with these most of the spring and am excited to carry the trend into my summer wardrobe. IMG_2904.JPG

Lastly, I want to talk to my girly girls, that great Pastel pink you all love, it’s finally on trend bigger then ever. It’s soft and does wonders for that tan skin we all crave during the summer. You can find this color palette all over the runways and in every store in a multitude of ways.More suits* #menstyle* style and fashion for men...

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Even though #adulting has taken away a lot of our freedom during these summer months don’t let it take your sense of style.

-ML

 

Product Feature: Brown Box Inc.

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During this Adulting time, in a twenty somethings life, you can’t get on Facebook or Instagram without seeing Engagement rings, ultrasound photos and new homes in the background. I’ll be the first to admit its hard not to be envious of those who are achieving goals at such a young age. I look at it as, more to look forward to later in life. So for those of us who are still just trying to get through the day at a bull shit job, not want to kill ourselves when we come home to our childhood bedroom and rubbing two pennies together trying to make a nickel, heres to you.

I recently was invited to a birthday party of a friend of a friend and was faced with the challenge of buying a gift for her. I’m extra and don’t like to come to a party empty handed…it’s rude.

We all have that friend, that girl we know through so and so and is in our group but we don’t really communicate outside of when we aren’t with all our friends. We don’t hang out one on one or know each others middle names but at the same time we are kinda friends. I hardly knew anything about this girl honestly and yet I did not want to show up with wine or a gift card. Through much searching and right in time for Labor day/ Summer I found Brown Box Inc. The cutest little Etsy shop that is targeted for broke college kids and young adults who want to give or get something unique! Upon further investigation I discover that they recently launched their site, I felt honored to be a trail blazing customer!

Seriously though, there was nothing to complain about with this company, adorable, affordable and quick! Themed gifts at an affordable price, What more could you want. I love finding up and comers to support! If High School Musical taught us anything as entrepreneurs  “We are all this together”

-ML

Down the Rabbit hole

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There is a well known world that many know of but few dare to enter. This my friends, is the world of Pageantry. I was lucky enough to feature the current Miss Chesterfield  Ashley Fisher this week! Just like while preparing for a pageant, we went all out for this piece, including a super fun Alice in Wonderland themed shoot!

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If there is anything I have learned from being a bystander of my dear friend Miss Chesterfield, its that pageantry  is not something that can be half assed. Just like falling down the rabbit hole, its all or nothing. Over our Mad Hatter style tea party, I got to get a feel for who this Princess is as a contestant.

“So why did you want to get into pageants?” “I  began pageants to prove myself that if I could win one, I could do other things I focus my mind on, without previous experience or knowledge – and I was right. I believe life is full of many twists and turns; knowing how to handle these situations without experience is key to believing in yourself to push through and continue forward.”

While continuing to sip tea and munch on delicious treats, the topic quickly changed to style, a huge party of pageants and to me one of the more exciting parts!

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Your outfits speak volumes, they are the first impression before you say a word. Any fashionista knows the importance of a good outfit “What would you say your style is?” “I have a few different styles depending on what I am doing throughout the day. I keep my style business casual at work, lounge style at home, and in-style clothes when doing appearances as Miss Chesterfield. I believe your clothing style highlights your personal “style”: your flair, what makes you, you. I am pretty much a relaxed-casual being and my clothes reflect that.”  Finally I had to ask, just for the record who her favorite designer is! Every pageant girl has that dress that they just feel beautiful in and for Miss Chesterfield, thats  Sherri Hill. “I have one of her couture gowns and it is breathtaking; I don’t think I could sell it if I had to!”

So as a Non-princess or crown chaser what have I learned from Miss Chesterfield? She has easily shown what hard work, preparation and talent can get you. She entered into this new realm and figured her way to the top heading to Miss Virginia in June, just like Alice finding her way through Wonderland. Only when Miss Chesterfield wakes up on June 24th, It won’t have all been a dream, She will have really made it.

-ML

Phasing out the phases

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As a young adult we have a habit to become laser focused on a certain thing for a matter of time then drop the microphone never to revisit the subject. Exhibit A. That time when you thought you were going to be a Instagram model, for a few weeks all you did was like other photos, research models who had made it from the popularity of their Instagram, take pictures against your white garage door and come up with clever captions and hashtags just to get a subpar number of likes. To eventually give up and just go back to regular pictures of life where you aren’t trying quiet as hard.img_1662.jpg

In today’s world we are open to so many alternative careers, by that I mean nontraditional jobs. There are some people who live on Instagram, posting photos for companies as an ambassador. We also have careers running other peoples Social media. These are jobs that did not even exist until a few years ago. Every twenty something is gunning for those few spots. While the importance of Social Media isn’t going away any time soon, what are you left when the Social media manager is no longer hiring? We all go through phases that mean so much to us for a brief moment then are gone like the wind. Platform heels, jelly bracelets, and jeans under a slip dress…trends that have lived and died. Just like fashion trends that we go through phases of our career that we need to go through to come out on the other side knowing how we feel about it. Whether thats what you love and want to do the rest of your life or hated and are done with!IMG_1831

Growing as a boss lady we have to separate what is just a phase and what our true calling is. If you were put on this earth to be an Instagram model, more power to you, I’m jealous. Job hopping is not cute after, say 30, so as we grow into polished, professional boss ladies we must work to phase out the “phases” of our career that aren’t leading us towards a bigger goal. I’m 23, not to say I’ve figure it out by any means, but I’m going onto bigger and better things as soon as I’m done with this annoying phase I’m currently in.

-ML

No Pain No Gain

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The past is a powerful thing, it built you up to who are now, it has placed the scars that haunt your present, its set your way of thinking based on experiences. The past is constant, yesterday good or bad, is now in the past.

Think of a horror movie, behind you is where the killer creeps. Our fears typically stem from what is behind us. Not many of us walk around unafraid and unfazed by scary things. There is plenty in this world to frighten us all. Doing your own thing is possibly one of the scariest things for an up and coming #bosslady.

One of my favorite quotes is “The best is only at the cost of great pain” Some people would disagree with this, but when I first heard it, everything clicked and even when I was in the middle of the great pain I knew something great would be waiting for me on the other side. Using the pain and hurt from the past helps you build and grow. This easily applies to all areas of life; relationships, family, business and  school.IMG_1606

The fact is, you will be disappointed in this life. You will be let down by people, things and sometimes the hardest, yourself. It isn’t how or when you fall but its what you do once you’re down. Some people take a moment to regain their strength, like myself. I always get back up, I have yet to give up on things that will make me happy in the long run. The best part of being down is that you can only go up. What gets you back on our feet? To fully know what can pull you back up, is to know what makes you happy and know what drives you.

So what pulls up back up? What knocked you down? What made you almost give up? Are you currently down waiting for a hand up? Let me know! We can’t make it in this world without a little help from others as inspiration.

-ML

Monkey bars motivation

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Most of what I write about is confidence, #adulting and growing pains in your early twenties. I feel it is only fair to warn the young ones growing up behind me of what they are in for.FullSizeRender 3

I had lunch with on of my fabulous college friends this past weekend and while reminiscing about beer, boys and back roads; we realized that its crazy how different things are and how different the mind set is even just from a year ago. This time last year I was knee deep in a depression. Heart ace, rejection and learning the hard way was the highlights of the time. I couldn’t let go of a college mind set, losing friends moving back home not having my own space and jus having a different life that was about test, graduating or what we should do Friday night. Now life was about money, loans and trying to get my dreams going.IMG_1451

Today I am a little smarter, a little older and a lot more comfortable with where I am in life. Life is like the monkey bars sometimes. All major steps are represented by a bar. Any adult who has tried to climb the monkey bars knows that its a lot more difficult to climb them now then when they were a kid. Kind of like life as a kid, life seems so simple. Grow up, get a job, get married, have babies, be a grandma then die; Life is simple. As we grow up things become more complicated and require more out of us. Just like reaching out for those next bars when your a quarter of a way through it gets tough, you get tired just like you get old and reaching for those next bars are a little harder. It’s getting easier to let go though, let go of that college life bar and reach out for the next bar in front of me. Reach out for that career bar, that marriage and house bar. One bar at a time.

-ML

 

 

Celebrations and Decorations

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People always get on me about being over the top, I could plan a dinner at a brewery and take it to a whole other level real quick; request everyone dress their best, send out digital invites, since the dinner is probably like two days away and get there early to decorate the table with fresh flowers and little theme related decor. Its something that I’ve embraced about myself. It’s something that once I did embrace, it made my career a little more clear. IMG_0478

I believe that there is always a reason to celebrate, every holiday, birthday, special event in your life and just celebrating life in general. This I have believed since my early years and passion for fashion. Dress up for yourself, take that extra five minutes to make yourself feel good the rest of the day. The always inspiring Rachel Zoe taught me that. Stepping into the event and wedding world takes that celebration to a whole new level. I constantly find myself being sucked down the rabbit hole of decor, themed food and a great outfit to match the occasion. For example,  tomorrow is St. Patrick’s day and what have I spent a solid chunk of my afternoon doing, searching on Pinterest for green drink recipes, playful and tasty treats I can bring to the party and spray tan coupons so my pale ass skin doesn’t frighten anyone in my green dress. Waste of time, maybe a little, but I couldn’t be more excited to go to Target after work and pick up all the supplies I need to complete St. Patrick’s day! I don’t love St’Patricks day, but I love having a reason to celebrate! To gather with friends and drink fun drinks. I am this way about any and all holidays. Celebrating is  that good job, that congratulations that makes you want to keep going. Small celebrations help us get to the bigger ones, so celebrate those tiny victories. You got that copier unjammed all by yourself, you finished that essay that you racked your brain about for days, you got through the day with only two cups of coffee instead of five, you made it to Friday and can’t wait to pop champagne and kick back! IMG_0078

So to all you nay sayers who think its just another day, it is, another day to celebrate life! Take each day as a blessing and a chance. #Blessed that you get another day on this earth and another chance to do better, be better and make this world a better place.

Decorate life, celebrate yourself.

-ML

You can’t know where you’re going till you know where you are.

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3 thing I am going to want to remember about this part of my career

As a young adult at the ripe old age of 23, I am just starting out. Anyone who has read any of my previous posts knows the following: post grad was life is hard, I literally went into a minor depression for about a year after leaving college. I had a lot of things change and things not go the way I had envisioned. Not only in the form of my career but also in my personal life. Fast forward to today, I still live at home, I have moved a baby step up in my career going from the manager of a consignment shop to a Sales Administrator position for a whole sale accessories and gift company. As excited as I was for the resume building and big picture aspect of this job, it’s not something I enjoy on a day to day. So what is going right? I wanted to write this piece as a reflection of what’s happening in my career at this rocky beginning period. FullSizeRender 2

Let’s Start with the dream; that thing that drives you and makes you work hard and stick out the tough days and the jobs you don’t enjoy, they are all going to get you closer, we hope….Since I was a kid I knew I was going to be a fashion designer, went to school for it my first two years. Surrounded by such talent everyday, I realized that sewing was not coming natural to me and I was struggling. So a quick switch of my major to design management and three business minors and I was ready to graduate and join the fashion world through another door. What that door is, I am still attempting to figure that out. Sorry to ramble on but lets just say the dream is split between fashion and wedding/event planning.

So what is it that I want to remember? My shitty job? The countless shitty retail hours I worked? Living at home because even after one full time job and 2 part time and free-lance jobs I still cannot afford to move out? While all of that is not ideal What I want to focus on, is my strives thus far. FullSizeRender 5

I want to remember how much I’m trying. Working every wedding, every event, every party I can get my hands on. Not only for the money but because I want to grow my portfolio, I want to leave my mark all over town delivering memorable, chic, fun events that people want to tell their friends about.

I want to remember how passionate I am about being happy in my work. I don’t want to ever lose that. Working hard to be happy in my every day, day to day is what I’ve always wanted. I won’t stop till I am.

Lastly, I want to remember how important a support team is. I am beyond blessed to have parents who are kind enough to let me stay at home while I am getting my feet on the ground. Blessed to have Jacob who doesn’t mind me talking about glitter, flowers and venues constantly. Support is all around me for whatever crazy dream I may have, I hope that never goes away.

Looking through the hard stuff and trying to focus on what’s good around you and what’s good for the big picture. That is how you move productively through this awkward time in a career.

-ML

HBD Olivia!

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Ever since MTV created My Super sweet 16 every one who throws a party wants it to be everything and more. So when my dear friend approached me about planning her daughters Sweet 16 I couldn’t wait! With a theme of Gold, black and silver, I managed to take an old retail space and create an enjoyable night for our party girl. Complete with DJ, Photo Booth, candy bar and dance floor!

Throwing glitter and gold anywhere I could, I was able to work with a reasonable budget and create a super memorable experience for Olivia, all her guests and her sweet family. FullSizeRender 4

IMG_1198IMG_1226IMG_1227Happy Birthday Olivia! I hope you enjoyed dancing the night away and throwing confetti!

-ML